NGT
You must breast feed. Breast feeding is best. Breast feeding encourages bonding and prevents Post Natal Depression.
Ok, so these are a few of the keynote messages and mantra echoed by NICE, doctors, midwife, mummy bloggers and pretty much any literature you pick up pre and post birth. Well I am here to tell you this is not always the case. Breast feeding is a privilege I was never able to fulfil. A privilege that I was denied, not through any personal desire not to breast feed but simply because both my son and daughter were incapable of doing so.
No one prepares you for this battle.. Feeding your baby is fundamentally a primitive instinct; your baby cries, you feed it. Well, with a child who is either premature (Simran 29 weeks) or born with complications such as Arjun, feeding becomes a medical and personal battleground.
It wasn’t like I didn’t produce milk, in fact I produced copious amounts of breast milk, at one point I had considered donating it to a milk bank. My breasts would swell and leak, but I could not breast feed. Arjun was hooked up to a machine that gave him continuous ‘ feeds’ or what the nurses called ‘bolus feeds’, this would deliver ‘food’ directly into his stomach, bi- passing the mouth and oesophagus, requiring no sucking motion. This is not uncommon in premature or sick babies, however with Arjun it was a little more than the norm.
He actually had no sucking reflex.
The doctors were becoming increasingly concerned that he was not responding to anything, he just lay there, motionless except for the vomiting and bowel movements. They suspected that he would never have the instinct to swallow or chew.
It was amazing how quickly we were trained to remove and replace his Nasogastric Tube or NGT; feeding tube. It is a very thin plastic tube that is pushed through the nasal cavity down the throat and directly into the stomach. You the check its’ correct location by drawing a syringe of fluid (stomach acid) via the tube and checking the pH balance levels. If it is not the correct pH then you start again, otherwise you are ready to start feeding via the tube.
The first time the nurse showed us this, it was pretty horrific more so as it obviously hurt him and when he cried there was no sound just his struggle. It was me who trained to do this, Dav found it tough and if I recall I don’t actually think he ever changed it.
By now the doctors were convinced that he would never suckle, but my instincts said he would. I was determined that he would not have surgery to insert a ‘peg feed’ into his stomach. This would involve an artificial valve placed directly into his stomach, from where we would pump special food to sustain him. There were clear complications with this, not to mention the extreme emotional distress for us. I was determined to get him suckling.
I tried everything.
For 2 months I sat with Arjun in the little room from 8am to 9pm, not leaving his side whilst Dav went to work. I tried all sorts of ways to get him suckling; putting my finger into his mouth and rubbing the roof of it to encourage sucking motion, dummies, plastic things from the speech and language therapists, a dozen or more different teats delivered to the hospital by different company reps, every range stocked by Mothercare but to no avail. The failure as a mother consumed me further, the thought that once again I was failing him and myself. That once again the mourning for the child I thought I was giving birth to was taken away through my own failures.
Feeding Arjun; breats milk and bolus feeds
NICU at Leeds General Infirmiry
It was only through the genius of luck that one of the nurses suggested a NUK teat. To be honest I had never heard of NUK, but it worked.
Nuk Teats- saved Arjuns life
The day we were scheduled to have a meeting with all the professionals involved in his care so far, Arjun was in his room feeding, not via NGT but with a NUK teat. We were far from out of the woods but this was a definite positive step. You see, the meeting was scheduled to pretty much force us to give Arjun the feeding peg. I was against it, Dav was unsure, but everyone in the room was there to tell us he had to have the peg and that we had no choice.
This is my only positive memory.
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